Thursday, June 29, 2006
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how to help a kid to grow up is one of the hardest job ever...
you think is hard to know what you want in your life? you think its hard to comunicate with ppl who has no clue? wat a bout dealing with some one and being responsible for some one who doesn't have clue, and think she knows every thing...
She is 17, you think its time for her to live for herself, you know you can't force her to do any thing or not do some thing.....
"S" beleive that one should not give her a choice.
"S" beleives that she is lying, I know some times she hides the truth.
"S" thinks she does anything so she can get her own way, "S" thinks we have eto be very ristrict so she knows, we know whats going on,
I think she should learn/ understand what is good or bad, ( If there is any thing such as good or bad)
"S" think its too early for her to Underestand. And to make a decision.
"S" thinks we have to tell her what she can do or she can not.
"S" beleives that she needs her parents to do parenting not being her firends..
I've heard that alot, That parent should be parent not firend...
When she screw up, "S" can guess where she went, what she did, what she is doing ....
The same thing that "S" finds out through his experiances and skills, She tells me through our firendship (all the time, or just some of the etime, I don't know...)
She asked me if she can buy some drinks, I told her she can do what ever she thinks its a right thing to do.
She did bought the drinks...
She wanted to take the drink to camp site, I told her she can have it only if she is staying at home.
.....
at 2 pass midnight, at a rainy rainy night, There was her firned throwing up at the back yard...
helping some one grow up is such a hard job.
She was asking me:
If I would beleive her ?
If I would love her unconditionally?
Comments-[ comments.]
you think is hard to know what you want in your life? you think its hard to comunicate with ppl who has no clue? wat a bout dealing with some one and being responsible for some one who doesn't have clue, and think she knows every thing...
She is 17, you think its time for her to live for herself, you know you can't force her to do any thing or not do some thing.....
"S" beleive that one should not give her a choice.
"S" beleives that she is lying, I know some times she hides the truth.
"S" thinks she does anything so she can get her own way, "S" thinks we have eto be very ristrict so she knows, we know whats going on,
I think she should learn/ understand what is good or bad, ( If there is any thing such as good or bad)
"S" think its too early for her to Underestand. And to make a decision.
"S" thinks we have to tell her what she can do or she can not.
"S" beleives that she needs her parents to do parenting not being her firends..
I've heard that alot, That parent should be parent not firend...
When she screw up, "S" can guess where she went, what she did, what she is doing ....
The same thing that "S" finds out through his experiances and skills, She tells me through our firendship (all the time, or just some of the etime, I don't know...)
She asked me if she can buy some drinks, I told her she can do what ever she thinks its a right thing to do.
She did bought the drinks...
She wanted to take the drink to camp site, I told her she can have it only if she is staying at home.
.....
at 2 pass midnight, at a rainy rainy night, There was her firned throwing up at the back yard...
helping some one grow up is such a hard job.
She was asking me:
If I would beleive her ?
If I would love her unconditionally?
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به دریا جووووووووووووووووونم
نگران آريا نباش عزيزم
ممکنه از يه کشور ديگه پاشه بياد شهرتون و نه تنها آدرس خونه تو براش اهميت نداشته باشه که همراهش بیاره (یا از اینترنت بگیره )، حتی شماره تلفنت رو هم نداشته باشه. و وقتی خواهش کرده باشی ميز شام تدارک ببينند براش، قالت بذاره جلوی اطرافیانت ، به اين اسم که من به تلفنی که مجانی برام ميافتاد زنگ زدم کسی جواب نمی داد!
و بعد هم تا یک سال بعد ازت طلبکار باشه به خاطر کار دندانپزشکی که به خاطر اینکه ببینیش انجام ندادی (و هنوز هم نتونستی afford کنی بعد از ۲ سال ) و هنوز هر وقت بعد از غذا خوردن دندونت درد میگیره یاد ارزش دوستیت بیفتی
اما اینقدر معرفت داره که بعد از ۱۰۰ دفعه که باهاش تماس گرفتی و یکی از تلفن هات رو جواب نداده، باهات دو بار تماس بگیره،
و بعدم بفهمی که بابا زنگ زده که براش اطلاعات پیدا کنی....
امیدوارم که آدمهای جالب توی زندگیش زیاد پیدا شن و گرنه قابل تصور نیست که آدم زندگی رو ادامه بده بدون شنیدن صدای دوست داشتنی و با مرام " اگه ناراحتی قطع میکنم و دیگه هیچ وقت هم زنگ نمیزنم!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
This remind me of that parent who hired a stri - pper for their son's 16 b-day.
And the mom was saying (in here defence) that i didn't show him some thing that he didn't see it before.....
I know I did most of the "unacceptable behaviour" under supervision of my parent, I asked them for the first drink, first smoke...
And the mom was saying (in here defence) that i didn't show him some thing that he didn't see it before.....
I know I did most of the "unacceptable behaviour" under supervision of my parent, I asked them for the first drink, first smoke...
# posted by 
: 2:26 a.m.
: 2:26 a.m.
For having an opinion, it is not enough to be 'someone' who 'sometimes' reads yer writings. Maturing is in one's attitude and practice rather than words--given that words may not reflect attitudes and practice as they should.
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# posted by : 2:30 a.m.
: 2:30 a.m.
About this post: It is good to have parents beside ye in the tough times of growing up.
If parents are tolerant to let ye have yer first smoke or drink. It's good to have them watch one growing up.
If parents are tolerant to let ye have yer first smoke or drink. It's good to have them watch one growing up.
# posted by : 2:32 a.m.
: 2:32 a.m.
کافیه به اونها هم اعتماد کنیم و اجازه‌ی خطا و اشتباه رو بهشون بدیم. به راهی نبریمشون بلکه راههای رو که می‌بینیم رو نشونشون بدیم و توضیح بدیم که آخر هر راهی که می‌شناسیم به کجا خطم می‌شه. گاهی زور کردن برای انجام کاری، طرف رو بی‌مسئول‌تر و بی‌اعتناتر به تصمیم‌های دیگه می‌کنه. به جای اینکه خود رو بکشیم و همه‌ی رفتارها رو کنترل کنیم بهتره از اول جایی که طرف ایستاده و جاهایی که می‌تونه بره رو براش نشون بدیم بعد همه‌ی مسئولیت رو بندازیم گردن خودش با این توجه که مواظب آینده‌اش باشه. همه‌مون با اشتباهات بزرگ شدیم. (کاری به تو ندارم) همه‌مون با سیگارهای مخفی و الکلهای مخفی بزرگ شدیم. با آرزوی سکس و ... اما راهی که در اون هستیم رو با توجه به اعتمادی که بهمون شده پیدا کردیم. شاید باید نکات مثبت هر فرد رو بگیم و بهش ارزش قايل بشیم و بعد بگیم که مواظب باشه که اونها رو داغون نکنه... راههای زیادی هست بسته به مواردش
# posted by : 2:54 a.m.
: 2:54 a.m.
the point is do i have to decipline her by not giving her a choice or not
as i said i gave her the choice and she did what i was not expected to do.
Is not like one should always make the right choice, is more the matter that if you know what is "the expected behaviour is" and you still don't do it, are you still allow to have choices sagain? or some one should tell you " you have to do this, " and thats it.....
as i said i gave her the choice and she did what i was not expected to do.
Is not like one should always make the right choice, is more the matter that if you know what is "the expected behaviour is" and you still don't do it, are you still allow to have choices sagain? or some one should tell you " you have to do this, " and thats it.....
# posted by : 1:10 p.m.
: 1:10 p.m.
I so can see myself hiring a st--er for my kid, or to a st-- club with them,
That might not be the best of parenting skills though!!!
for me the point is where u have to be a dicipliner where a firend. and
That might not be the best of parenting skills though!!!
for me the point is where u have to be a dicipliner where a firend. and
# posted by : 1:13 p.m.
: 1:13 p.m.
sure! add me as farwaters. But I'd rather email or talking than chatting. :)
# posted by : 4:10 p.m.
: 4:10 p.m.
I'm having the same situation with my 17 year old bro now! the exact SAME!
the difference, man khodam in roozha az oon bishtar niaz be rahnamaii va supervision daram dar senneh 27-8 salegi!
har chizi yek senni dare. ino to hamishe migofti o man bavar nemikardam. har chizi dar zamaneh monasebesh bayad anjamm beshe. too har jameii ham in fargh dareh. too iraneh ma shomareh gereftano mozahem telephoni bood vaseh 17 saleh too nasleh ma, inja drugs and alcohol hast va sex dar in zaman.
man fekr mikonam bacheha bayad ba supervision, dar hadeh mahdoodi tamameh in tajrobeharo begiran.
baradareh man va khahareh to lucky hastan ke maharo daran ke darkeshoon konim va keep eyes on them.
I have so many stories to tell you... if you ever wanna call
the difference, man khodam in roozha az oon bishtar niaz be rahnamaii va supervision daram dar senneh 27-8 salegi!
har chizi yek senni dare. ino to hamishe migofti o man bavar nemikardam. har chizi dar zamaneh monasebesh bayad anjamm beshe. too har jameii ham in fargh dareh. too iraneh ma shomareh gereftano mozahem telephoni bood vaseh 17 saleh too nasleh ma, inja drugs and alcohol hast va sex dar in zaman.
man fekr mikonam bacheha bayad ba supervision, dar hadeh mahdoodi tamameh in tajrobeharo begiran.
baradareh man va khahareh to lucky hastan ke maharo daran ke darkeshoon konim va keep eyes on them.
I have so many stories to tell you... if you ever wanna call
# posted by : 8:36 p.m.
: 8:36 p.m.به دریا جووووووووووووووووونم
نگران آريا نباش عزيزم
ممکنه از يه کشور ديگه پاشه بياد شهرتون و نه تنها آدرس خونه تو براش اهميت نداشته باشه که همراهش بیاره (یا از اینترنت بگیره )، حتی شماره تلفنت رو هم نداشته باشه. و وقتی خواهش کرده باشی ميز شام تدارک ببينند براش، قالت بذاره جلوی اطرافیانت ، به اين اسم که من به تلفنی که مجانی برام ميافتاد زنگ زدم کسی جواب نمی داد!
و بعد هم تا یک سال بعد ازت طلبکار باشه به خاطر کار دندانپزشکی که به خاطر اینکه ببینیش انجام ندادی (و هنوز هم نتونستی afford کنی بعد از ۲ سال ) و هنوز هر وقت بعد از غذا خوردن دندونت درد میگیره یاد ارزش دوستیت بیفتی
اما اینقدر معرفت داره که بعد از ۱۰۰ دفعه که باهاش تماس گرفتی و یکی از تلفن هات رو جواب نداده، باهات دو بار تماس بگیره،
و بعدم بفهمی که بابا زنگ زده که براش اطلاعات پیدا کنی....
امیدوارم که آدمهای جالب توی زندگیش زیاد پیدا شن و گرنه قابل تصور نیست که آدم زندگی رو ادامه بده بدون شنیدن صدای دوست داشتنی و با مرام " اگه ناراحتی قطع میکنم و دیگه هیچ وقت هم زنگ نمیزنم!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
# posted by : 6:52 p.m.
: 6:52 p.m.
baba ajab Madar J... ye mozakhrafi boodeh in aghaye Aryan, ma khaar nadashtim! LOL
midooni, vali migan baraye kasi bemir ke barat tab koneh. vagti hamin aghaye aryan 1 mah neshasteh paziraii, entezar shayad nadashteh ke doostesh davatesh koneh vagti ke too sakhttarin sharayeteh zendegishe va bad bezaneh ziresh va begeh bara 3 rooz arzesh nadareh biaii! va yek bareh dighe ham vagti midooneh doostesh dareh miyad shahreshoon, bedooneh inke behsh begeh bezareh az shahr bere biroon, mitoonest hadeagal begeh gablesh ke taraf gafelgir nashe.
chon hamin agaye Arya, aghe bara doostesh ye hamchin moshkeli pish miyoomad na tanha ye blit migereft doostesho davat mikard ke havash avaz beshe, balke aghe mifahmid doostesh too oon sharayeteh khoff dareh miad az shahreshoon migzareh, joori tanzim mikard ke oonja bashe bebinatesh deldarish bedeh, ya inke hadeagal behesh migoft ke dareh az shahr mireh birron donbaleh dadan! (bebakhshid, dandoonpezeshki!)
vali darseh akhlagi ke aghaye Arya gereft az in gaziye in bood ke gedmateh doosti koochiktarin arzeshi nadareh, vagti ke omgh doosti kam bashe. va az hameh mohemtar yaad gereft ke BARA kasi Bemireh ke barash Tab koneh!
doosti fagat maleh club raftano yek mah khooneye kasi telep shodano har rooz estakhr ro mall o gardesho georgetown raftan nist!
doosti vagtieh ke aghe taraf ye rooz in chiza ro nadasht dighe va in service ha va savariaro nemitoonest bedeh, va too hesabesh 1 dollar ham nadasht o vaziyateh roohish bad bood, doostesh naghe biya man pooleh beliteto midam bad 2 rooz badesh begeh NA arzesh nadareh bara 3 rooz kharjet konam biyaii inja!
Aslan nemidoonam chera oomadam inja in charandiyato bekhoonam ya benevisam.... I need to also learn to let go of broken bonds
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midooni, vali migan baraye kasi bemir ke barat tab koneh. vagti hamin aghaye aryan 1 mah neshasteh paziraii, entezar shayad nadashteh ke doostesh davatesh koneh vagti ke too sakhttarin sharayeteh zendegishe va bad bezaneh ziresh va begeh bara 3 rooz arzesh nadareh biaii! va yek bareh dighe ham vagti midooneh doostesh dareh miyad shahreshoon, bedooneh inke behsh begeh bezareh az shahr bere biroon, mitoonest hadeagal begeh gablesh ke taraf gafelgir nashe.
chon hamin agaye Arya, aghe bara doostesh ye hamchin moshkeli pish miyoomad na tanha ye blit migereft doostesho davat mikard ke havash avaz beshe, balke aghe mifahmid doostesh too oon sharayeteh khoff dareh miad az shahreshoon migzareh, joori tanzim mikard ke oonja bashe bebinatesh deldarish bedeh, ya inke hadeagal behesh migoft ke dareh az shahr mireh birron donbaleh dadan! (bebakhshid, dandoonpezeshki!)
vali darseh akhlagi ke aghaye Arya gereft az in gaziye in bood ke gedmateh doosti koochiktarin arzeshi nadareh, vagti ke omgh doosti kam bashe. va az hameh mohemtar yaad gereft ke BARA kasi Bemireh ke barash Tab koneh!
doosti fagat maleh club raftano yek mah khooneye kasi telep shodano har rooz estakhr ro mall o gardesho georgetown raftan nist!
doosti vagtieh ke aghe taraf ye rooz in chiza ro nadasht dighe va in service ha va savariaro nemitoonest bedeh, va too hesabesh 1 dollar ham nadasht o vaziyateh roohish bad bood, doostesh naghe biya man pooleh beliteto midam bad 2 rooz badesh begeh NA arzesh nadareh bara 3 rooz kharjet konam biyaii inja!
Aslan nemidoonam chera oomadam inja in charandiyato bekhoonam ya benevisam.... I need to also learn to let go of broken bonds
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